I was feeling kinda bad...
I heard from a girlfriend from college, yesterday. I hadn't talked to her in a few months and I've not seen here in a few years. Needless to say, we're not very close friends, but she is one of the few people that I keep in touch with from HU.
She was emailing both Mik and myself - just catching up with the past events, that neither of us knew. Through all of this, she kinda invited herself to Mik's wedding in August, but that's not a huge deal. Mik had not really intended on inviting her, due to money restraints, but she would never tell her that she could not come.
Anyway, in the midst of emailing back and forth, Girlfriend from Charlotte - let's call her Atl., said that her son has cerebral palsy! He was born prematurely and so I guess that is what caused it. Anyway, I was really sorry to hear that. I have talked to her a time or two since she has had him and she had not mentioned it before. --Not that she should have felt compelled to, but I guess the thought of her child (or any friend's child) having a disability kinda threw me for a loop.
I talked to Mik last night for the first time in a while. She has been going through all kinds of stuff and we really haven't had the chance to just check in and vent. Ok, the truth is that I have really not taken the time to listen to her. She had emailed me a couple of times and said that she was all stressed out and having a hard time and although I kept saying that I would call her, I didn't. SHe would call and I would be busy, so I would have to call her back. Or sometimes I would call her, but we never really got down to the nitty gritty. We kinda skirted around a few issues...did the small talk thing, but that's about it. Come to think of it, I propbably never really asked her what was happenin' in her hood.
Now, the real reason that I wasn't calling or talking a lot was because I also have had a lot of stuff going on in my life. Aside from workin' with "the crazies", you know BF and I have been on the rocks for the last few months. Not that that's an excuse, but because it came from absolutely nowhere, it has been an extremely difficult situation for me to handle.
I have not shared a lot of details about BF with her and now I just dont feel like it. We kinda have wierd friendship, but it works for us. N.E.Wayz..
I really didn't feel like listening to anyone else's problems. I have enuff problems of my own, right?? Well, Mik and I finally talked last night. She had emailed me yesterday and told me that her parents have been driving her crazy, she's stressed trying to figure out how she and RH are going to pay for the wedding, and that her parents may be on the verge of separating!! That is A LOT for one person to got through and I told her that I would have to call her later because everything that she had emailed me was waaay too much for me to discuss via email. Last night, I kept my word and finally called... We laughed and talked about all the craziness in her life and I tried to give her some encouraging words, like "If you kill someone, remember that I only get paid on the 1st and the 15th... keep that in mind if you need bail money" I think she felt better after we got off the phone.
The only problem was that I felt bad after I got off the phone. I'm hoping that I'm not turning in the type of person that compromises my friendships because I'm going through my own set of issues.. I don't usually consider myself to be a selfish person and generally regard myself as a really good friend. I hope that really is the case...
Well I was reading TRUTHZ blog and she was talking about a letter from the heart that she sent to some family members. She posted it along with some of the responses that she has received and I thought that it was all very touching. Look at me, gettin' all sentimental. HA! Anyway, I bought some cute little cards today and I'm going to send them out to my nearest and dearest. The last Just Because card that I received was from my Crazy Cousin, Nita. It was totally outta the blue, but it made my day. That's what I need to do for some of my people.
When was the last time you did some special for someone for no reason at all?? If it's been a while, you need to get to it! ;-)
She was emailing both Mik and myself - just catching up with the past events, that neither of us knew. Through all of this, she kinda invited herself to Mik's wedding in August, but that's not a huge deal. Mik had not really intended on inviting her, due to money restraints, but she would never tell her that she could not come.
Anyway, in the midst of emailing back and forth, Girlfriend from Charlotte - let's call her Atl., said that her son has cerebral palsy! He was born prematurely and so I guess that is what caused it. Anyway, I was really sorry to hear that. I have talked to her a time or two since she has had him and she had not mentioned it before. --Not that she should have felt compelled to, but I guess the thought of her child (or any friend's child) having a disability kinda threw me for a loop.
I talked to Mik last night for the first time in a while. She has been going through all kinds of stuff and we really haven't had the chance to just check in and vent. Ok, the truth is that I have really not taken the time to listen to her. She had emailed me a couple of times and said that she was all stressed out and having a hard time and although I kept saying that I would call her, I didn't. SHe would call and I would be busy, so I would have to call her back. Or sometimes I would call her, but we never really got down to the nitty gritty. We kinda skirted around a few issues...did the small talk thing, but that's about it. Come to think of it, I propbably never really asked her what was happenin' in her hood.
Now, the real reason that I wasn't calling or talking a lot was because I also have had a lot of stuff going on in my life. Aside from workin' with "the crazies", you know BF and I have been on the rocks for the last few months. Not that that's an excuse, but because it came from absolutely nowhere, it has been an extremely difficult situation for me to handle.
I have not shared a lot of details about BF with her and now I just dont feel like it. We kinda have wierd friendship, but it works for us. N.E.Wayz..
I really didn't feel like listening to anyone else's problems. I have enuff problems of my own, right?? Well, Mik and I finally talked last night. She had emailed me yesterday and told me that her parents have been driving her crazy, she's stressed trying to figure out how she and RH are going to pay for the wedding, and that her parents may be on the verge of separating!! That is A LOT for one person to got through and I told her that I would have to call her later because everything that she had emailed me was waaay too much for me to discuss via email. Last night, I kept my word and finally called... We laughed and talked about all the craziness in her life and I tried to give her some encouraging words, like "If you kill someone, remember that I only get paid on the 1st and the 15th... keep that in mind if you need bail money" I think she felt better after we got off the phone.
The only problem was that I felt bad after I got off the phone. I'm hoping that I'm not turning in the type of person that compromises my friendships because I'm going through my own set of issues.. I don't usually consider myself to be a selfish person and generally regard myself as a really good friend. I hope that really is the case...
Well I was reading TRUTHZ blog and she was talking about a letter from the heart that she sent to some family members. She posted it along with some of the responses that she has received and I thought that it was all very touching. Look at me, gettin' all sentimental. HA! Anyway, I bought some cute little cards today and I'm going to send them out to my nearest and dearest. The last Just Because card that I received was from my Crazy Cousin, Nita. It was totally outta the blue, but it made my day. That's what I need to do for some of my people.
When was the last time you did some special for someone for no reason at all?? If it's been a while, you need to get to it! ;-)
posted by Ms.Behavin at 3:53 PM
1 Comments:
Thxs Ms.B for the shoutout...Yeah, I don't know if you know this, but not one person who responded is my biological family. They are friends and their family that have adopted me over the years. Before I got to the part where you said you read my post, I was like, she reading my mind...It's hard to be a friend when your own life is in shambles..but we have to, because i'm sure there have been times when our friends have been friends and been there for us when they have had stuff going on in their lives...or if not, it may come a time. and i had lost sight of that..yeah, i was going through a serious depression and just shut everyone out.. and in my mind, i felt i was right... but i would be devastated if one of my friends treated me the way i have treated them
the cards are a great idea... i just did that and people were so happy.. it's just the thought that someone made you enough of a priority to buy a stamp and mail you something
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